If you usually suppress accusation, this is exactly what you have to express now; not in order to retaliate and hurt your partner, but to see who is it in you that accuses, which role you identify with now. If this is your aim, then this is the first step

If you usually suppress accusation, this is exactly what you have to express now; not in order to retaliate and hurt your partner, but to see who is it in you that accuses, which role you identify with now. If this is your aim, then this is the first step to de-identification.