To sin is not to love yourself holistically

What is a sin? Smoking is bad for your health; therefore it is a sin. Marijuana is bad for your health; therefore it is also a sin. Too much alcohol is bad for your health. That’s another sin. A sin is a breach of certain norms of human behavior. I offer you to look at it from another point of view. A sin is a consequence of self-blame. The only real sin is unawareness. What people usually define as a sin, happens to be just another side of duality, opposite to a side that is called goodness.

We are not theologians. We are interested in practical things. So, let’s investigate from a practical standpoint what exactly the idea of a sin represents. Any idea that enters a human being starts to act. When an idea totally absorbs a man, he starts to serve this idea and completely shares its fate.

I am going to give you a new definition of a sin. A sin is unawareness. If I am suffering due to a sin, it means that I don’t understand something in myself. In such a case, I can exit a state of a particular sin by increasing my understanding of myself. This definition we can work with. There is no harshness in it.

A sin is not understanding something. A sin continues and gets reinforced because your not understanding does not get converted intounderstanding. When a human being kills someone, it is a sin. This sin is connected to his not understanding of the fact that he is killing himself.    

— Initially, when I am a child, someone explains to me what sins are and defines them for me. Afterwards, it is assumed that if I, knowing the substance of one or another sin, continue to act the way I did, the sin turns into a conscious sin.  

— You continue to act the way you do because you do not understand what you do, as you do not understand yourself. For example, we frequently use such words here as «clear vision», «to be aware», «to understand». The one who hears these words frequently starts to say that he sees, understands, and becomes aware. At the same time, he continues to do the same things. I tell him that he is not aware, he is simply using this word.  

In my understanding, to become aware means to see holistically the consequences of your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Many people act out of error, i.e. out of not knowing something. Doing something they do not understand, they cannot see what their actions lead to. 

They receive the consequences of what they gave birth to. However, they attribute these consequences to other people or consider these consequences to be coincidental. You need to start seeing how what you do returns to you. In what form does it return to you?

Another important question is: «What do you do? » One action can be defined differently. First, it depends on how you define it. Second, it also depends on what your motives are.

Let’s say I gave money to someone. Then, another man gave the same amount of money to the same person. It appears that both of us have completed the same act. However, people may see different motives behind this act.

Some would say that he was given money because he was pitied. Others would say that people who gave the money were interested in the profit to be made on this transaction. Yet, others would claim that if the money were not given, the receiver would have forcefully extorted them. Some may claim that the money were given by the givers out of abundance of them. There may be multiple motives and multiple explanations for the same act. What is the motive of our actions? We are frequently not aware of the motives of our actions.

— We don’t see our motives. Often we don’t even want to see them. Later, we invent certain justifications for our behavior. 

— And later on we get completely entangled in our not knowing. Let’s take a look at the situation of a relationship between a man and a woman. What kind of an impulse can we see there? There may be many of them.  

Let’s say you meet someone and a relationship starts between the two of you. But this human being has a wife or a husband. If we were to use a formula: «Shall not covet your neighbor’s wife», then it is a sin, and to sin is horrible. We might be afraid to meet other people and to have other relationships.  

At the same time we are told: «Love your neighbor as you love yourself», but ninety percent of those neighbors are married. It’s a mix-up. The majority of people do not ask those questions, but they exist as we can see.  

— Some people choose to live and to act based on a model they like the best.  

— It’s not even what they like the best, as in such case one needs to at least figure something out. The majority of people on the other hand don’t even ask where these believes came from. They act out of the habitual believes. They are completely identified with these believes, i.e. they are these believes.

— It says: «Do not commit adultery», but at the same time, it was said to me: «Don’t do anything without love». Adultery is an act without love. Even people bound by marriage vows can practice adultery. Adultery is a conditioned love.  

— It is a conditioned love. It’s a manipulation. That’s what we see in so called families here. People frequently hang to each other out of fear of losing common assets or out of other aims, totally unrelated to what is called Unconditional Love.  

It follows that the only sin is not to love yourself wholly, in all your manifestations. Therefore, adultery is an act devoid of such love. Sins appear and are being maintained by the dual personality that simply wants to use someone. 


Take a look at your believes, the believes you are guided by in your life. What do you consider being «right» and don’t even question? Can you see a belief opposite to the one that you call «right» in your baggage? Take a look at the conflicts these opposite believes create in your life, and on the ways you try to resolve them?

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